People ask me all the time how I know when someone has shown me who they really are. Abusers wear masks all the time. The overt ones are easier to spot; they proclaim loudly who they really are through their verifiable lies and cruel actions. They essentially “tell”...
I often get asked, “What is love, really?” The reason I get asked that is because abusers, narcissists, dark triads, antisocial personality disordered and malignant borderline personality disordered, throw that word “love” around. However, do they really know or...
If you have ever seen an abuser, a narcissist, or a dark triad not get their way, you will more than likely have seen them rage. A narcissistic rage is a breathtaking sight to behold and by that, I mean it can be downright terrifying if you have never seen one before...
“Why do I procrastinate so much? What is wrong with me?” That is a question that I get asked a lot. Hello, and welcome to yet another trauma response we all have coming out of abusive relationships. Short answer? Procrastinating is a maladaptive way of having control....
In this weeks episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris talks about why abusers lie, what pathological lying is and what cognitive dissonance is and why targets sometimes stay with abuser even in the face of overwhelming evidence that they are bad for them.
Communal narcissists are ones who use religious teachings to gather people to them and, once the people have been gathered, to abuse the living crap out of them, even to the point of death. It makes no sense, to a sane person, that the narcissist wants their followers...
In this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses why abusers tend to create, nay, need chaos and drama!
In this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris talks about disordered corporations, office bullies, cliques, backstabbers, screamers, and schemers and how you can either avoid working for a corporation like that altogether or have coping skills to deal with them.
All families have problems like ours! No marriage is happy! The rest of the family thinks YOU are crazy! You’re mother/father is a whore/asshole/bastard/bitch! Therapy is for losers! Only crazy people go to therapy! No child of mine will be in therapy! You don’t need...
Mass family killings happen every 3.5 weeks. These killings have happened every 3.5 weeks for the last TWENTY YEARS! That is almost 300 mass family killings, and that isn’t the number of casualties; that is the number of mass family killing events. The number one and...