Ah, that is the question. One, I get asked… a lot. Unfortunately, it is not my decision; it is yours. There are as many reasons to leave as there are to stay, and only you can decide what will be your line in the sand. Some people leave an abusive relationship because...
You’ve divorced and ironed out a custody agreement. Before the ink has dried, your ex has remarried. The person they married has decided that you are the Anti-Christ, and their job is to erase and punish you and your children. They have a personality disorder just...
‘Tis the season for Narcissistic family members, exes, and frenemies to wreak havoc on the holidays. Why do narcissists intentionally ruin the holidays? So many reasons! Remember, you are dealing with someone who has the emotional capacity of an 18- month-old on a...
People ask me all the time how I know when someone has shown me who they really are. Abusers wear masks all the time. The overt ones are easier to spot; they proclaim loudly who they really are through their verifiable lies and cruel actions. They essentially “tell”...
I often get asked, “What is love, really?” The reason I get asked that is because abusers, narcissists, dark triads, antisocial personality disordered and malignant borderline personality disordered, throw that word “love” around. However, do they really know or...
If you have ever seen an abuser, a narcissist, or a dark triad not get their way, you will more than likely have seen them rage. A narcissistic rage is a breathtaking sight to behold and by that, I mean it can be downright terrifying if you have never seen one before...
“Why do I procrastinate so much? What is wrong with me?” That is a question that I get asked a lot. Hello, and welcome to yet another trauma response we all have coming out of abusive relationships. Short answer? Procrastinating is a maladaptive way of having control....
In this weeks episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris talks about why abusers lie, what pathological lying is and what cognitive dissonance is and why targets sometimes stay with abuser even in the face of overwhelming evidence that they are bad for them.
Communal narcissists are ones who use religious teachings to gather people to them and, once the people have been gathered, to abuse the living crap out of them, even to the point of death. It makes no sense, to a sane person, that the narcissist wants their followers...
In this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses why abusers tend to create, nay, need chaos and drama!