I’m Kris Godinez
Licensed Professional Counselor. Author. Speaker.
Empowering You to Escape Abuse and Lead a Full, Happy Life
Kris keeps it real in her two books, You Can Lead a Horse to Water, but You Can’t Make ‘em Cha Cha and What’s Wrong with Your Dad?
It Ends Here
Unlock the Secret to Happiness and Escape the Cycle of Abuse
Abusive relationships can be found at home and at work, but you possess the inner strength to leave and find your own happiness. Don’t get caught in the trap created by those exhibiting borderline or narcissistic personality disorder. Kris Godinez shines a light on what’s keeping you stuck so you can get out and reclaim your personal power. Through her videocasts, books, and from the stage, Kris shares:
No-nonsense, practical conversations about what’s holding you back.
Blunt, down-to-earth advice that helps you see the cycle and break it.
Personal anecdotes and examples that will have you relating to the situation in a new way.
Real emotions that will make you laugh, cry, and feel everything you’ve been holding back.
Speaking & Appearances
Facebook Live Show
What Is Narcissistic
Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is a mental condition in which individuals have an inflated sense of self-importance, which exhibits itself in a need for higher levels of attention, a sense of entitlement, and a lack of empathy for others. Those who have NPD are controlling in relationships at home and at work, leading to emotional, mental, and physical abuse.
How do I know if I’m living with / working with someone who has NPD?
Do people with NPD have other issues in addition to this diagnosis?
What is the best way to communicate with someone who has NPD?
What are the red flags of abuse?
1. Love bombing: Over-showering you with attention and acceptance.
2. Mirroring: Pretending to have the same interests and desires.
3. Mask wearing: Taking on a personality befitting the situation, to benefit their needs, disguising their true self.
4. Isolation: Pitting you against your friends and family, forcing you to abandon them.
5. Devalue: Criticism, making you feel that you can’t do anything right.
6. Gaslightng: Reinventing history to fit their narrative or agenda, and denying how events really happened. Making statements such as “I never said that” or “You’re crazy, that never happened” are hallmarks.
7. Discredit: Turning things around to put the blame on you, dismissing your claims as untrue. They will do this to you, as well as family, friends, and your counselor.
8. Discard: Once they have gotten what they need, or feel that you have realized what they are doing, they will drop you like a hot rock.
9. Hoover: They will try to win you back, with promises of change making statements like “I’ll change, it will be better this time”, “I didn’t really mean it”.
10. Rinse and repeat: The cycle will start over again from the beginning.
What you will always get with me, in my videocasts, books, from the stage, and in personal counseling, is honesty and a no-nonsense communication style. I call out people on their stories and help them see a new way of being that allows them to step into their personal power.