“Why do I procrastinate so much? What is wrong with me?” That is a question that I get asked a lot. Hello, and welcome to yet another trauma response we all have coming out of abusive relationships. Short answer? Procrastinating is a maladaptive way of having control....
In this weeks episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris talks about why abusers lie, what pathological lying is and what cognitive dissonance is and why targets sometimes stay with abuser even in the face of overwhelming evidence that they are bad for them.
Communal narcissists are ones who use religious teachings to gather people to them and, once the people have been gathered, to abuse the living crap out of them, even to the point of death. It makes no sense, to a sane person, that the narcissist wants their followers...
In this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses why abusers tend to create, nay, need chaos and drama!
In this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris talks about disordered corporations, office bullies, cliques, backstabbers, screamers, and schemers and how you can either avoid working for a corporation like that altogether or have coping skills to deal with them.
All families have problems like ours! No marriage is happy! The rest of the family thinks YOU are crazy! You’re mother/father is a whore/asshole/bastard/bitch! Therapy is for losers! Only crazy people go to therapy! No child of mine will be in therapy! You don’t need...
Mass family killings happen every 3.5 weeks. These killings have happened every 3.5 weeks for the last TWENTY YEARS! That is almost 300 mass family killings, and that isn’t the number of casualties; that is the number of mass family killing events. The number one and...
Finally! Merriam Webster’s word of the year is GASLIGHTING! The education is WORKING! Keep sharing your survival stories! Keep educating people on the red flags! Keep calling out the abusers and the abusive behaviors. Abusers and abusive behavior need to be made...
Last week was very difficult. In Phoenix, Arizona, Jason Hudgens decided that because his wife, Marla, wanted to end the marriage, he decided to end their three children’s lives, her life, and lastly, his. The babes, three-year-old Christopher and twin six-month-old...
Ah, November! The air is crisp, the holidays are coming up and you are a bundle of anxiety over how to keep your sanity with your family or ex, or both. Abusers are notorious for ruining the holidays! It doesn’t matter what holiday. Thanksgiving? They’ll ruin it!...