by John Godinez | Gaslighting, Love bombing, Narcissistic Personality Discorder
Ah, November! The air is crisp, the holidays are coming up and you are a bundle of anxiety over how to keep your sanity with your family or ex, or both. Abusers are notorious for ruining the holidays! It doesn’t matter what holiday. Thanksgiving? They’ll ruin it!...
by John Godinez | Gaslighting, Love bombing, Narcissistic Personality Discorder
Most people think the scariest thing about October is Halloween. In reality October is scary because it is the beginning of the hoover season. Between now and right after Valentine’s Day is when the emotional vampires attempt to feed. Abusers need constant...
by Kris Godinez | Gaslighting, Hoover, Love bombing
Ah, yes! Love is in the air! However, you just broke up with a narcissistic abuser and every fiber of your being either wants them back or, wants to start dating immediately to ease the loneliness. Let me explain why both of those options are exceedingly bad and...
by Kris Godinez | Gaslighting, Hoover, Love bombing
Congratulations you made it through the majority of the Hoover Season! We are, however, not out of the woods yet! That’s right! The dreaded Valentine’s Day is a little over a month away and trust me, the hoovers are not over yet! Instead of walking down memory lane,...
by Kris Godinez | Gaslighting, Love bombing, Mask wearing
Abusers lie, whether they be malignant narcissists or malignant borderlines or co morbid with each other. All cluster B personality disordered abusers lie. They lie often. They lie convincingly and they often believe their own lies. Targets of abuse fall for the lies...
by Kris Godinez | Gaslighting, Love bombing
Something I have seen over and over again in my practice is that abuse and addiction go hand in hand with an abuser. Granted, we, the targets are addicted to the intermittent positive rewards, but the abusers? Oh, they have a whole slew of addictions of anything from...