When we have been unjustly accused of doing things we didn’t do, the desire to clear the air is strong. Now, if you were dealing with healthy people, clearing the air would be the right thing to do. You aren’t dealing with healthy people. Narcissists, Dark Triads, and...
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So many of us have read romance novels or watched tv shows and movies, especially rom-coms, that send the wrong message. Messages like “You CAN change them!” “Stockholm syndrome is okay and will end well!” “Treat the partner like crap; they will love you more!” “Lose...
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CBT works with mistaken thoughts and mistaken beliefs. One way to process said mistaken thoughts and beliefs is to JOURNAL! You probably didn’t like that suggestion and you are probably wondering why I and so many therapists recommend it. Well, it all has to do with...
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Have you ever wondered why abusers seem to lie all the time, about, well, everything? I’m sure you’ve heard the term “pathological” liar. Did you know that personality-disordered abusers lie upwards of 20 plus times a day, compared to non-personality-disordered...
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coercive control, abuser, abuse, partner, narcissist, person, control, absolutely, people, hoovering, child, target, therapist, friends, relationship, accuse, narcissistic, contact, boundaries, healthy What is coercive control? How do abusers make their targets do...
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