by Kris Godinez | Gaslighting, Love bombing
Something I have seen over and over again in my practice is that abuse and addiction go hand in hand with an abuser. Granted, we, the targets are addicted to the intermittent positive rewards, but the abusers? Oh, they have a whole slew of addictions of anything from...
by Kris Godinez | Gaslighting, Hoover, Love bombing
Ahh, February. Spring is just around the corner, love is in the air, Valentine’s Day is nearly here and PING! A Text from your ex who you have not heard from in (fill in the blank) days, weeks, months, years declaring how they miss you and wonder how you are doing and...
by Kris Godinez | Gaslighting
Why? Why do abusers LOVE to either try to ruin the holidays or to try and hoover their exes during the holidays? Abusers do NOT have empathy, they do NOT feel real joy, or love, or any real emotion other than anger. When they see people having real joy, real love,...
by Kris Godinez | Narcissistic Personality Discorder
Abusers, narcissists in particular cannot stand it when they are not the center of attention and the one in “control”. Three things in life are going to show you who and how people really are: Weddings, Funerals, and Finances or money. Abusers will try to ruin a...
by Kris Godinez | Somatic Symptoms
“My back and neck always hurt.” “My stomach is always in knots.” “I’m exhausted all the time.” “I have an autoimmune disease.” If this sounds familiar and you are a survivor of abuse, you are so not alone. Many, many, many survivors of abuse come out with chronic...
